Church & Spirituality

I grew up in a very churchy and religious environment; Christian elementary, middle and high school, and university.

I didn’t realize how hypocritical that environment was or how unprepared I was for real life. All the sudden, I was thrust into the real world and began to have issues with many things but I had no one to talk to because all my friends were “churchy.”

It wasn’t until my mid-30’s that I began to realize how much guilt and shame the church environment had on my life and the pain that caused me.

Back in college, I wrote a paper entitled “The Modern Church Is The New Country Club.” A lot has changed over the centuries but what hasn’t changed is the repressed hurt, guilt, and shame from your youth that comes from being raised in a religious environment.

I know how you feel. Ive felt that way before. Write me and tell me your story.

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"I have known Rob for at least 15 years. At first, he was my massage therapist, but he quickly became a good friend. There have many times that I have been going through life’s challenges, and he would be a listening ear, encourager, and reality check. Many times, he was able to help me take a good look at a situation and realize it was not as formidable as it appeared. I value him as a therapist and a friend.

One of the major hurdles I have dealt with is growing up in an Evangelical Church, all the while fighting my truth of being gay. I did not want to disappoint my church or family. But on the inside, I was drowning from being what everyone else needed and not looking out for myself. Rob has helped me to understand that I am me. He encouraged me to embrace feelings and desires I have and to understand that they are not corrupt but are normal for me.

His friendship, encouragement, and support have been tremendously helpful in my quest to find happiness just being the best me I can be. "
Toby
"We've known Rob for two years now. Over that period of time he has been very helpful with both my husband and I individually and together with regards to going from a monogamous into a non-monogamous marriage. He has very wise insights and a non-judgemental approach. He was very helpful with helping us avoid several potential pitfalls and learn how to set healthy boundaries and communication. Even my husband listens to his advice and that, in itself, is saying something!

I would highly recommend him to anyone who is considering the lifestyle or a non-monogamous relationship. Oh, and his 24/7 availability came in handy quite often."
Laura B