Sexuality

Madonna in her song Material Girl, said, “we are living in a material world and I am a material girl.’ That might have been true for the ’90s but today we are living in a sexual world. Never before in our generation have we experienced such a sexual revolution. Despite this sexual revolution, sadly, there are still people who feel guilt and shame for who they are sexually or who they wish to become then there are those who aren’t quite sure who they are sexually. With terms such as bisexual, pansexual, transsexual, gender fluid, heteroflexible, bi-situational, it’s no wonder people are confused. Add to that  terms like swinger, lifestyle, open relationship, non-monogamy, and polyamory and the confusion only grows greater.

For a person who knows they are not just heteronormal, it can be very challenging and scary and unsafe to talk about how they’re feeling or to just ask questions. Who can you talk to that is non-judgmental or that has experience?

I would be an excellent choice for a life coach if an individual or a couple is considering exploring their sexuality. I have personal experience in many of these areas and I feel that personal experience gives me the credibility to help one navigate their sexuality in a safe space.

Reach Out
"I have known Rob for at least 15 years. At first, he was my massage therapist, but he quickly became a good friend. There have many times that I have been going through life’s challenges, and he would be a listening ear, encourager, and reality check. Many times, he was able to help me take a good look at a situation and realize it was not as formidable as it appeared. I value him as a therapist and a friend.

One of the major hurdles I have dealt with is growing up in an Evangelical Church, all the while fighting my truth of being gay. I did not want to disappoint my church or family. But on the inside, I was drowning from being what everyone else needed and not looking out for myself. Rob has helped me to understand that I am me. He encouraged me to embrace feelings and desires I have and to understand that they are not corrupt but are normal for me.

His friendship, encouragement, and support have been tremendously helpful in my quest to find happiness just being the best me I can be. "
Toby
"We've known Rob for two years now. Over that period of time he has been very helpful with both my husband and I individually and together with regards to going from a monogamous into a non-monogamous marriage. He has very wise insights and a non-judgemental approach. He was very helpful with helping us avoid several potential pitfalls and learn how to set healthy boundaries and communication. Even my husband listens to his advice and that, in itself, is saying something!

I would highly recommend him to anyone who is considering the lifestyle or a non-monogamous relationship. Oh, and his 24/7 availability came in handy quite often."
Laura B
My wife and I decided to open our marriage up about 6 months now and I am not sure we would have had as much success with it without Rob's help. Any couple who has ever done this knows that the both of you will be dealing with complex emotions, thoughts, urges, and issues that will spark very diffcult conversations. Ultimately, of course, these conversations are supposed to make you stronger together as a couple, but sometimes they just bring frustration, depression, and anxiety. This is why I am so grateful that we sparked a conversation with Rob. Although we never met, his advice, wisdom, and experience were invaluable. Prompt, professional, truthful (even when it’s hard to hear), and completely relatable; Rob is a gold mine of non-monogamy knowledge. In my opinion, everyone who is new to the Lifestyle and non-monogamy needs a coach, especially couples because there is so much to lose if it goes poorly – reach out to Rob and don’t be afraid to speak openly. There’s no judgement, just solid and practical advice.
JamesBirmingham, AL