1) You will never speak to anyone as much as you speak to yourself; in your head.

2) We become what we think.

3) Hurting people hurt people.

In order to become the best version of ourselves, we must first learn to forgive ourselves, love ourselves, and be kind to ourselves. If we cannot do these three for ourselves then it is either impossible to do for others or, one fakes it as long as they can, to fit into societal norms.

Many people are living fake lives and in the absence of their own authenticity, hurt themselves over and over and become frustrated, disappointed, resentful, bitter and ultimately angry. Their anger at themselves is so much a part of who they become that it flows into their interactions with other people and others begin to see and refer to them as a toxic person. Their actions and more importantly, the way they communicate and react to life’s circumstances, are mainly outbursts of negativity. They are often very critical of others and seek to be confrontational just out of spite. You will see little if any kindness, grace, and mercy. 

If any of this rings true for you, I want to encourage you,  just for one week, to try a different approach to your day. Evaluate what you’re putting into your mind every day. Are you feeding your mind first thing in the morning and or throughout the day with negative news propaganda? If so, then how about going one whole week without watching or reading any news sources. Instead, watch inspirational podcasts or read positive material. Are you following and interacting with social media groups that promote divisiveness? If so, for one whole week either take a break entirely from any involvement with social media or, resolve to not make one controversial post or make any negative comments on others’ threads.

The final experiment involves yourself. For 7 days in a row, pick one positive statement and repeat it at least 10 times throughout the day. For instance, “I am grateful.” “I am loved.” “I like myself.” “I am smart.” “I am happy.”

Be kind to yourself. Extend yourself grace and mercy. Forgive yourself. Only by doing this will you obtain the Joy you are looking for,  attract like-minded people, and be capable of truly loving others and receiving love.