The two most common questions I’m asked are, “So Rob, what makes you better or more qualified than other life coaches?” And secondly, “do I even need a life coach?”
These are fair questions and if they aren’t verbally asking me, I know people are thinking it, especially those who know me, or should I say, think they know me. “Isn’t Rob just a massage therapist or wasn’t Rob a construction project manager?” The answer is yes to both and being authentic, I’ve had eight different “jobs” since college. Unlike most others, I didn’t choose my career based on status, salary or security. I’ve truly never been motivated by money. I felt so lost when I was in college because I didn’t know what to do with my life. I felt capable to do anything but not driven for any one thing and therefore I experienced paralyzation from over analyzation. What I once thought was a character defect, when comparing myself to others, I now see was actually intentional grooming for the past 30 years to be where I am today; a man who has experienced and lived several lifetimes and whom is naturally better equipped than most, for my life’s calling. I didn’t pick being a life coach, it has picked me.
I don’t think I’m the best or the most qualified but I’m not exactly sure how anyone could even make those claims. Tony Robbins is an amazing man, but just because he’s a name that most people recognize, doesn’t mean he’s right for everyone. And unless you have tens of thousands of dollars, you could never get him to be your personal coach.
Here are the top six reasons why I believe I would be a wise choice to be one’s life coach.
1) I am a true empath and have intuitive and trained healer/helper character traits.
2) I only coach in the areas that I have true deep life experience. A lot of coaches want to coach from conjecture and ideology having never experienced the areas they say they can help one with.
3) I am authentic and genuine and have the ability to approach life coaching from unique and fresh perspectives.
4) I actually care. It’s hard to explain, even to myself, but like the kid who could see “dead people” in the movie, The Sixth Sense, I too can “see” hurting people and my heart aches for them.
5) My coaching methodology is simply, “teach a person to fish and feed them for a lifetime.”
6) I offer a very unique coaching approach in that I make myself available 24/7 to those whom I coach. I believe this to be a crucial and critical component for effective life change. Crisis does not happen in such a way that it can be scheduled by an appointment two weeks or even a month away. And for most people in crisis, a one-hour therapy session is not enough time and it only leaves one feeling frustrated.
Warning: before you read further, just a reminder, this is Journey of Authenticity not Journey of Little Debbie snack cakes, rainbows, and unicorns. I made a promise to myself that I’ll make to you the reader; I’m going to say what needs to be said. And whereas it comes from a place of love and compassion, it will not be sugar-coated, sprinkled, or glazed. So read further at your own peril.
My own personal journey of authenticity can be summed up in this statement; being present, mindful, coachable and accountable with the desire to become the best version of myself. Is this your personal statement? If it isn’t now, would you like it to be?
If you’ve read this far, I encourage you to ask yourself these two questions, “why as a parent, do I not think twice about hiring personal or select coaches for my child’s athletic or musical development, but I resist and put off investing in my own personal development?” And, “why does the top 1% of professionals that I admire in sports, movies, music and in business, continue to have life coaches, even after they have reached the top of their respective fields?” (Spoiler alert, they are in the top 1% because they see and know the value of being accountable and coachable. And as for your kids, statistically, only 5% utilize the decade of personal coaching and parlay it into some kind of college scholarship. That means 95% of the reader’s children have spent tens of thousands of dollars on EACH child for “entertainment.”(Betcha never thought of it that way.) I wonder had that money been invested in personal development and developing healthy marriages, if those money’s would have been a better investment not only for the adults but for their children. What’s the saying, “what does it profit a person to gain the whole world but lose their soul.” Our worldwide divorce rates, infidelity rates, and adolescent sexual identity crisis is proof that SIGNIFICANT life mismanagement has occurred over the past 4-6 decades.)
“Ouch Rob, I’d rather read something that makes me feel good.” I understand, but that’s a MAJOR part of our problem. We ignore the pain by constantly doing things to make us feel good such as eating, drinking, and chasing happiness. Want proof? Look around you. We are the most obese society in the history of the world. Why is that? Because we’ve been conditioned to self-medicate with food and entertainment and because as adults, we don’t seek to be held accountable and therefore there is no communal accountability. And secondly, we are so desperate to be accepted that we compromise and or lose our individual identity in order to fit in. Why the desperation for acceptance? One main reason is as children, the majority of us were not affirmed by our own parents and I will go as far as to say ignored by their parent’s during crucial life development stages, mainly out of ignorance. Our parents were too busy working and dealing with their own personal issues that they failed to recognize the struggles that their own children were experiencing. So as adults, we are desperate for the approval of others and that desperation has led to a myriad of personal and communal problems, both of which we are witnessing in today’s society.
Are you tired of the hamster wheel and living a life of insanity? Isn’t it exhausting keeping up the appearances? What would you be able to achieve or obstacles you could overcome in your life if you only had a person who you knew, accepted you for who you are now, and was willing to put in the work WITH you, to walk WITH you on your own journey of authenticity? I’m here and I’m just a text away. Tell me your story. I promise to listen and respond.
